I’m not going to lie, Chiron in Aries is a tough wound to overcome. It represents the relentless search for something that’s been missing in your life, or more commonly, the search for who you are and your place in this chaotic and unordered world.
It’s an innate drive or calling to know more about who you are at the core, without all of these layers that have been projected onto you by both society and even your own mental dialogue.
Chiron in Aries: Understanding this Confusing Placement
Remember that Aries is the instigator of the zodiac, it kickstarts the zodiac wheel being the 1st of all the signs. Its motto centers around ‘I am’ which is why many with Chiron in Aries feel as though they’ve lost touch with themself over the years.
If I had to sum it up, I would call it a ‘pure identity crisis’, always trying to prove they do and should exist.
Based on numerous natal chart readings I’ve performed, many who have this placement feel as though everyone else has their identity figured out yet they can’t seem to tap into theirs.
They feel like an alien on their own planet or even as though they were accidentally ‘misplaced’ here and so spend a lifetime hiding their true inner self. A former client of mine likened it to ‘a nomadic wanderer’, always seeking a place of refuge or familiarity.
The Characteristics and Traits of Having Chiron in Aries
Something super interesting though. Those with Chiron in Aries tend to act like a chameleon, often mimicking the actions, thoughts, and even emotions of others to blend in.
Whilst some might label this behavior as sinister, I see it more as a coping mechanism for survival. It’s not scammy or deceitful or malicious, it’s actually coming from a place of crisis and a deep feeling of non-belonging rooted in isolation.
Chiron in Aries wants to understand itself and one of the only ways it thinks it can do this is by bouncing around and interacting with lots of thoughts, experiences, and people. Experimentation at its finest, if you like.
The Catch 22: A Major Challenge Rooted in Others’ Perception
If you have Chiron in Aries (no matter the house it’s in), you might also feel as though you have your identity figured out at times only then to quickly realize you don’t or you deem it as weak or unacceptable.
This placement is a true rollercoaster of ups and downs.
You might also switch identities and groups often, believing to have found your home in one only then to realize you’re not as similar to the others as you had thought.
You notice differences, namely in energy, that you don’t like and don’t warm to.
And yet despite this, there’s a major sense or feeling of altruism towards other people; doing things to prove a sense of worth even if it severely disadvantages you.
This typically leads to self-exhaustion and sometimes a complete mental or emotional breakdown.
There’s a catch here though (as per usual) – your help isn’t always well-received. The ‘nice person’ persona Chiron in Aries attempts to portray can to others appear untrustworthy, too good to be true, or even stifling.
When help is not sought after but it’s offered anyway, not only does it place you in a position of vulnerability, but it also has the potential to violate your own boundaries and values.
Self-sacrifice and self-sabotage are both major traits of this Chiron natal.
Betrayal and Traumatic Experiences
In most cases, I’ve seen those with natal Chiron in Aries have their self-image shattered by other people, having faced much bitterness, jealously, and general all-round deception and betrayal.
Their sense of self becomes marred by feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, and not ‘enoughness’ (for either themselves or other people).
Unfortunately, traumatic experiences are abound for those with Chiron in Aries which often further deepens this Chiron wound by encouraging the individual to keep their needs, desires, wants, and ambitions to themselves in fear of rejection or further pain.
Can you see how this is a vicious cycle?
The Wounded Belief at the Centre of it All
Here’s where this core wound gets even stickier though. If we believe in the Law of Assumption and Manifestation, then what we put out into the world, we receive back.
This wounded belief of ‘never having your needs met’ can mean Chiron Aries always end up encountering situations where their needs are continuously not met; think toxic relationships, controlling parental situations, becoming a parentified child etc.
This can be a majorly destabilizing position for your self-confidence, esteem, and sense of worth, and until this cycle (or rather placement) is broken and healed, you’ll continue to face the same situations.
Other key traits of this placement include:
- Over-giving to prove a sense of value and worth to others
- Risk of burnout and overwhelm at work or in career
- Underlying feelings of anger and rage
- Extremely emotionally sensitive or scared of criticism or put-down
- Believing yourself to be unimportant and apathetic
- Keeping the peace even if it means self-abandonment
- Feeling tired or depleted all the time
- Believing that love has to be earned and so all love is ‘tough’ or ‘hard’ to gain
- A hopeful belief that one day you’ll be suddenly appreciated and loved for your nice and honest self
Oddly, I tend to find that those with Chiron in Aries project a near-perfect public image; no one would be any wiser to the suffering that happens behind closed doors.
Many would be baffled or even distrusting of a Chiron Aries who claims to be under such duress and pain, believing it can’t be ‘all that bad’. Of course, that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Healing the Wounds of Chiron in Aries
Healing Chiron in Aries is no easy feat because it’s SO deeply personal. It’s perhaps unlike any other Chiron placement.
It relates to the inner self much more than say Chiron in Sagittarius or Chiron in Capricorn does, which are much more externally focused.
Healing firstly requires removing the very act of searching and seeking. It requires an acknowledgment that you’re not lacking anything, and so nothing else needs to be found.
The very act of searching is what is providing the illusion of ‘lostness’. But the key here isn’t to leave it at this surface-level act.
Removing judgment of the self and rewiring core negative beliefs is fundamental to healing too.
When we commit to understanding our own needs like no-one has bothered to do before we stop searching for love and validation in all the wrong places aka we stop attracting narcissistic, conditional connections.
Appreciation of yourself as it is, with no change, is something to be embraced, not shied away from.
There also has to be the acknowledgment that errors and mistakes are perfectly acceptable and are in fact encouraged! They’re not reflections of your worth or value in this world, just normal human behavior and experiences.
Using the Strengths of this Placement For True Life Transformation
True transformation with Chrion in Aries though typically begins (or perhaps ends) with healing the deepest childhood wounds, or at the very least the wounds that have permeated through to young adulthood.
With Chiron in Aries, the inner child is often severely bruised, or even non-existent as it was seen as a weakness and flaw of the personality. Letting it run free again without shame by providing it with the love, compassion, and understanding it needed all those years ago is crucial.
You’ll know when you’re interacting with your inner child because it will pop up in times of doubt, worry, anxiety, fearfulness, and crisis (remember, what you deem to be a crisis, not what others deem it to be).
The adult ego quickly tries to shut it down by telling it’s being ‘overdramatic’, ‘sensitive’ or ‘stupid’. Lean into that duality and notice what your internal dialogue is saying.
Embracing New Thinking Patterns and Sense of Self
Sourcing a new sense of self-esteem and positive energy is pretty important here too. My clients with this placement tend to find recovery happens when they move from ‘thinking’ to ‘doing’. Mindful action as I like to call it.
Hobbies and creative passions fuel Aries need for self-expression and release an upwelling of pent-up feelings. Anything that gets you into the body and away from the mind is a good idea.
Meditation actually isn’t all that effective for the Chiron Aries type because it’s a sign rooted in fire and passion – it craves forward movement. From a grounded psychological point of view too, meditation can retrigger traumatic experiences within the body because the stillness becomes overbearing.
When you have Chiron in Aries, it’s essential that you’re moving out of your headspace often, and only venturing back into it to question or expose its unhealthy thinking patterns.
When you find yourself thinking self-critical thoughts, try to reassure the wounded inner child that this is a projection of a time you felt unsafe. This is a momentary relapse or traumatic remembrance but it does mean you’re currently in danger, and so therefore, tell yourself that you’re no longer in a dangerous or threatening scenario.
Remove the fear and worry.
Putting Yourself and Your Needs First Again
The other thing I highly recommend Chiron in Aries do is understand what serves you versus what doesn’t.
Are you scheduling in time to truly enjoy yourself or are you just keeping yourself busy to avoid all heavy emotions?
Remember what we bury will eventually surface in some explosive manner, usually through the mind or body, and sometimes even as chronic pain.
Another key thing to remember here is that the Universe serves back what you believe to be true about yourself. When you affirm your strength, love, capability, and confidence, others will begin to treat and reflect that energy back too.
Of course, not everyone will treat you as you wish, as is human nature, but when something challenges your self-image again, this time you can rise knowing it’s a projection of the other person’s state of well-being as opposed to any shortcomings of your own.
Constantly building and exposing yourself to the thought patterns you wish to embody and become is key here.
Allow Other People the Grace to Struggle
As for the altruistic, overly kind behavior? Allow people to struggle. Simple as that. They need to find their own way in this world just as you had all those moons ago.
Struggle is not the same as suffering, it just means there’s a puzzle to be solved or worked through.
Everyone has these moments in life and it doesn’t mean anyone needs saving (which is impossible to do anyway).
Likewise, if someone asks too much of you, take a moment to reflect and pause before immediately saying ‘yes’. Pretend to check in with your schedule or say you’ll get back to them in the next few hours or days with an answer.
Assess and re-prioritize to prevent you from over-exerting yourself.
Recap of Chiron in Aries Exercises
- Stopping the act of searching for something outside of yourself
- Healing the inner child
- Meeting your own needs and desires before that of someone else’s
- Learning to say ‘no’ when you want to, without feeling guilty or shameful
- Move from thinking into doing with hands-on and body-related activities
Do you have this Chiron placement? Let me know in the comments. How is it affecting you? I’d love to hear from you!